What is your ideal sort of dominant with whom or relationship in which to give service? What sort of dominant persona and traits do you idealize or prefer as far as giving service is concerned?
I got really lucky, in that I found exactly the type of dominant I had been dreaming about, right off the bat. I wasn't able to put it into words before, but now that I know and serve her.. kind, gentle, but severe and firm when necessary. Highly intelligent (honestly, Mistress has by far exceeded my dreams in this regard), creative, sensual, sadistic, naturally dominant, perverted, exhibitionistic, adventurous. Nurturing, compassionate, fun-loving. Immensely trustworthy in all regards. Someone I can like, love, and admire deeply. As a bonus, she's incredibly experienced and amazing at rope work and wielding any weapon. I'm so freaking lucky (and terribly sad that she's moving across the country soon). :(
If applicable, what would be your ideal sort of household?
I don't exactly know the answer to that question yet... requires more experience. I will say that I am very happy in my current situation, although ideally, it would also include sexual service. Mistress is pretty much the dream girl that I have fantasized about for years but didn't actually think existed and I don't need much more than I'm getting now, but you know.. sex and snuggles would be really nice. Maybe even getting to share a bed with someone every now and then. The toughest part for me right now is having a giant crush on her and having all these sexual wants that can't go anywhere.
Also, ideally, I would love to be owned by someone. That's something I have wanted so much, for a really, really long time. I love hearing the words "You're mine" or "Who do you belong to?"
"What you get back" is part of the question too, although that's been covered more in previous posts iirc. How about--if you have 'service fantasies' of any kind, what do you get back there, is it the same or different from what you get back in reality?
What I get out of it is a very long and complex answer. Short answer is that I get a lot of happiness and personal satisfaction out of helping and doing things for people. I get even more enjoyment when it's a D/s dynamic because the other person is more likely to pay attention to my actions and be appreciative of them.. I feel like there's a bit more to it, where it's like something offered and graciously taken, rather than a plain old completed task. I also admit that it's just more fun and exciting if I know the person is a D-type and they know I'm an s-type, so then the things I do are more chivalrous, service-y, and obviously tailored to serve them.
So far, my service fantasies have been pretty close to reality when they actually happen. I'd always had a fantasy about serving at a BDSM/kink event and I got the opportunity to make that reality earlier this month, when I served at the Service & Suspension Showcase at the Citadel. I know it seems such an odd thing, to enjoy waiting on people, but it's my occupation, I'm good at it, and it's such a treat when I'm able to use my skills toward something fun and enjoyable, like waiting on friends who come to visit me at my restaurant, or something like the Citadel dinner.
What is your favorite type of service, in theory or practice? Any unusual sorts of service that catch your imagination or inspire you?
Well, I won't lie.. I don't love cleaning. I most enjoy the things that aren't tedious or repetitive. I think perhaps what I love the most are things that I only get asked to do occasionally, such as helping her with grooming, jewelry, rubbing her feet, etc. What I wish I could do more of are the things solely for her enjoyment, but she is often uncomfortable simply accepting these things because she sees other things that could be done, she feels strange or selfish sitting back and accepting them, etc. I would be very happy to rub her feet, brush her hair, or whatever else, especially if it was something that would sort of force her to relax, take a few moments to herself, and just enjoy the feeling of whatever it is. I would love for her to revel in my service, as I do... it's a wonderful feeling.